97: Keys to Well-Being: Are You Kind?
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This is Part 5 in a series exploring behaviors that increase an individual's sense of well-being. Throughout this series, we will answer the questions:
- What does it truly mean to be happy?
- What are some ways that we can increase happiness?
Compassion - Defined
Compassion at its most basic level means "to suffer together". It includes elements of EMPATHY and ALTRUISM (Compton, 2020, p. 320). Empathy requires us to take on the perspective of another person. It allows us to connect deeply with others. Altruism is the act of helping others without expecting anything in return. It is often prompted by prosocial emotions like self-control and compassion.
Self-compassion, and its antecedent self-criticism, manifest themselves in the physical body in the following ways:
- When we practice self-compassion, we activate the mammalian care-giving system in our bodies. This triggers the release of oxytocin which increases positive emotions like trust and connectedness.
- When we practice self-criticism, we activate the reptilian limbic system. This is the part of the brain that helps us detect threats. This leads to arousal of the sympathetic nervous system which triggers a "fight or flight response." Cortisol levels and blood pressure increase, muscles contract, the pupils dilate, and respiration rates speed up. When this system is activated it can "hijack" the logical prefrontal cortex (Neff, 2012).
Research suggests that practicing compassion - either directed at ourselves or others - positively affects a person's health, relationships and overall well-being. Helping others activates the rewards pathway in the brain releasing chemicals that make people feel good. Practicing compassion is also thought to lower blood pressure and reduce the risk of heart disease. It leads to increased resilience and acts as a buffer against stress. People who practice self-compassion are less likely to experience depression and anxiety. They are, in turn, more likely to experience happiness, resilience and optimism (Neff, 2012). They are less likely to be anxious, depressed, and stressed. Practicing compassion leads to increased levels of happiness, motivation, self-compassion, connectedness with others and overall mental health.
If you are interested in learning more about self-compassion, I suggest you watch this TED Talk: The Space Between Self-Esteem and Self Compassion.
Are you interested in becoming more compassionate towards others? Consider practicing a loving-kindness meditation. You can practice this meditation by yourself or guide others through it. It fosters compassion by allowing people to notice suffering, while at the same time giving people the emotional resources they need to not feel overwhelmed by it. Ready to give it a try? Click on this link, Compassion Meditation.
Practicing Self-Compassion
The following activity will help you tame your inner-critic and help you develop a more compassionate attitude towards yourself. This is an activity that you can do with yourself or your students.
I hope that you found this post to be helpful! I would love to hear from you about how you practice compassion in your everyday life. In the next post in the series, we find work on finding our "flow." Until then, if you have questions, comments, or resources please drop them in the comments section.
Cori
Other Posts in this Series:
93: Keys to Well-Being: Are You Happy?
94: Keys to Well-Being: What's Your Why?
95: Keys to Well-Being: Got God?
96: Keys to Well-Being: Forgive and Forget?
Hagan, E. (Ed.). (n.d.). The power of self-compassion. Psychology Today. Retrieved April 5, 2023, from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/positive-living/201902/the-power-self-compassion
Lyubomirsky, S. (2013). The how of happiness: A practical guide to getting the life you want. Piatkus.
Miller, C. A., & Frisch, M. B. (2011). Creating your best life: The ultimate life list guide. Sterling.
Neff, K. (2012, July 2). The physiology of self-compassion. Psychology Today. Retrieved April 5, 2023, from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-power-self-compassion/201207/the-physiology-self-compassion
Neff, K. (n.d.). Compassion exercises . Self. Retrieved April 5, 2023, from https://self-compassion.org/category/exercises/#exercises
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